Top 3 Avoidable Fights That Can Ruin a Relationship

Let's be real, no relationship is perfect. Just like an occasional disagreement with a sibling, parent, or roommate, it's normal to experience conflict with someone you spend a lot of time with in romantic relationships. Sometimes these fights or disagreements can have positive outcomes. This is especially true when understanding and communication are involved between you and your partner. But some fights are just unnecessary.

Best Life, a lifestyle magazine, collaborated with relationship experts and a celebrity matchmaker of Luma Luxury Matchmaking to compile a list of the top avoidable fights that can ruin a relationship.

Kicking off their list is "texting tiffs." Many people in relationships use texting as a form of communication. According to their experts, texting can cause some miscommunication. This includes loss of tone and the potential to leave messages unread. Emojis can be misunderstood, and delays in responses can lead to unnecessary worry and overthinking. They do suggest just talking to your partner to avoid conflict.

Following behind is "social media snafus." Social media can stir up insecurities and ignite jealousy. This sometimes be a specific person who likes your post or you liking someone else's post and other examples. "When it comes to social media, think about your significant other before you post or interact with others online and prioritize your real-life relationships instead of virtual ones," one of their experts recommended.

On their list of avoidable fights is "planning priorities." Arguments about how you spend your free time can arise in relationships. The reality of a relationship is that you spend a lot of time together. While this may be true for some, it’s safe to say we all need alone time and the ability to enjoy our own hobbies. "Trying to decide on weekend plans or vacations can feel like herding cats," one expert said. "One person wants adventure, and the other wants Netflix and chill," they shared. Before it becomes an argument, just know that communication is key.

The lifestyle magazine points out that we all generally fall into one of two categories: night owls or early birds. They said that having different sleep habits from your partner can prompt unnecessary fights. Some couples learn to embrace their partner’s schedules and make it work. But the best way to do this is to communicate your concerns and needs with each other before it becomes too far gone.

Other avoidable fights on their list include fashion fights, disagreements over money, dinner dilemmas, and others. Take a look at their complete list and more insights here.

Dating is nothing like it was a few decades ago. Heck, dating isn't anything like it was even just a few years ago, with all the different dating apps and online ways to find love. But, one thing hasn't changed: People still want to be appealing. They want to put their best foot forward in the dating world. So, what are some ways to be more attractive and appealing when you're on a date?

Actually, this list works even if you're not looking to date or are already are in a long-term relationship. Why not be as attractive as possible just for yourself? I'm not just talking about the physical, either. There's so much more to being an appealing person than looks alone. Dictionary.com has some definitions of attractive that show the broadness of this term. They say the word means "providing pleasure or delight, especially in appearance or manner" and add that words such as "pleasing, charming and alluring" all apply. They also use the word in the context of having "an attractive personality" or "arousing interest or engaging one's thought" and "consideration."

Of course, not all definitions are so broad. Some do come down to appearance and vanity. Vocabulary.com defines it as, "Anybody or anything that's attractive is visually pleasing or draws you in." They add that it also has to deal with attracting others, of course, and that, "for people, being attractive usually means you're beautiful or handsome enough to pull in the attention of others."

That said, in this list, I'm really focusing on ways to be an all-around attractive person. This is largely not a list about how to be physically prettier or more handsome. Sure, some of these tips are physical. But, for the most part, these are ways to be instantly attractive in the dating game and a more appealing person overall.

This one might seem odd. If you're trying to attract someone, why would you try to focus on them? But, it works. People like to feeling like the person their with is actually interested in them. It helps you actually be an attractive person if it isn't always about you and if you focus on your partner, date or friend.

Sure, you want to look good on your date. But, if you're wearing heels that are too high or pants that look cool but just don't fit, you might be uncomfortable, and that will make the other person uncomfortable. "The most important thing is that you feel comfortable in what you are wearing. If you are not comfortable, it will show in your body language and your date will be able to tell," says Houseofcoco.net.

Everyone always talks about confidence being attractive, and they're not wrong. Being confident in yourself is a very attractive quality. You don't need to be an egomaniac or anything, though. No bragging fests on a first date. Just, be confident in who you are and in the spectacular, rock star of a person that God created you to be.

This goes along with confidence. Just be you, because nobody else can be you. "As cheesy as it sounds, the most important thing you can do on a date is to look and act like your authentic self," notes Southerntide.com.

This is a tricky one. I'm not a big fan of perfume. But, it's good to smell nice on a date. That said, do not - I repeat, to not - overdue it. There's really no bigger turnoff than someone who smells like they just took a dive into a pool of really strong perfume or cologne. Less is more.

Show off those pearly whites! Something as simple as smiling can make you instantly appear attractive, because it implies that you're happy on both the outside and inside. No RBF, please. Smiling is contiguous, too, in the best possible way.

Your mom was right when she told you to sit up straight. "Slouching makes you look unconfident and bored, neither of which are attractive qualities," notes Houseofcoco.net. "Sit up straight and make sure your shoulders are back. It will make you look more confident and alert, two qualities that are sure to impress your date."

Dating and socializing is supposed to be fun. Humans were meant to be together in a community, and that's a good thing. So, just have fun on your date. Be playful. Laugh. Flirt. Wink. Okay, maybe don't wink. That's creepy. But, you can send a wink emoji. Simply have fun.